The Realities of Divorcing Young

Some people believe marrying young will give you a long life of fulfilling love, while others compare it to leaving a party at 9pm. Statistically, the younger you marry the higher your chances of divorcing and in kind the younger you will be when you actually divorce. There is nothing wrong with divorcing at a young age but, unfortunately, there is a stigma attached to it. Here are some hard truths about young divorces.

Young Divorce Carries Stigma

There is stigma attached to divorcing young. Just as marrying young can distance you from others, so to can divorcing at a young age. Your friends or family may not understand how to react to your situation. They may even be scared about their own relationships and project attitudes by complaining that you did not try hard enough or that something is wrong with you.

Be prepared to not have your marriage taken seriously. People will judge your short marriage because you did not spend decades together, have children, or invest in expensive assets together. Some may view the entire experience as a “trial marriage.” You may feel judgement, especially if you enter into a second serious relationship soon after your divorce.

Your World is Running Different Than Everyone Elses

Just because your marriage was short does not mean that your divorce is not complicated. The truth is, divorce is challenging at any age, any time and everyone handles it differently. People who have been married for years can have easier divorces just as short marriages can have miserable ones.

Chances are while you are out busy seeking a divorce, most of your same-aged friends are busy getting married and having children. Thus, it can be hard to ask for comforting support from people who have not been in your position. Try to reach out to specialized support groups that connect other young adults.

Find the Positives and Plan a New Life

Its difficult for most people to take anything positive out of a divorce. But there are many positive things to take from this experience. You have learned important life lessons about yourself, finances and relationships that you will carry into your next relationship. It’s an opportunity for you to create a fresh life for yourself and finally do the things you’ve dreamed of.

Announcing a divorce can come with negative feelings attached, especially when you are a young adult. Sometimes, good people just do not make good partners. It’s better to figure that out while you are still young and have all the opportunities in front of you.