In the home, you both normally keep to yourselves and do your own thing. There is almost no touching between the two of you and sex rarely happens, if ever. Communication is gone and neither of you seem to care to talk about your day with the other. This alone does not have to signal the end of your relationship, but it may be time to seek couples’ counselling for intimacy problems.
Arguments happen often, and seemingly small incidents can trigger the start of exhausting fights. No matter how hard each of you tries to keep the peace, fighting still happens and it feels like you’re both walking on egg shells all the time.
When one spouse stops caring and does not want to try anymore, there is often little you can do to try and fix the marriage. You’ve tried all options, such as couples’ counselling, and they all feel like a dead end because of the spouse’s lack of effort.
You look for opportunities to get out of the house and away from your partner. The thought of traveling far away is fascinating to you and may encourage you to purposefully create fights just to escape.
Coming to the conclusion that your marriage is over is not something anyone wants to experience but it may open the first door to many new great opportunities and experiences. It is common to feel like a failure when deciding separation is the best option, but you’re not alone and not a failure; sometimes marriages just do not last!
Family Mediator, Toronto ON
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